As I was studying, I started wondering if this invisible hand Adam Smith wrote about might exist in other places. What else in life finds an equilibrium, and what is the response when it doesn't?
If we stand in line at the grocery store ten people deep, with only one checker, the demand is high, and usually someone gets on the speaker and calls for back-up, finding an equilibrium. If I don't get enough sleep one night, the next night I may try to sleep more, finding another sort of equilibrium.
What happens though, when the fight to find an equilibrium is not as easy, or has the ability to "adjusted?"
Recently a movie that I have not yet seen, but have read the book with a cultish fever, has come out in the theaters. He's Just Not That Into You hit the box office with a little bit of a disappointing splash.
Not that I can blame most women, that isn't exactly a title that screams "happy ending" or even "date movie" for most men. Talk about exposure.
Anyways, the principle behind the book should be fairly east to ascertain. The whole point, is that men are actually quite simple. If they want you, they will tell you, show you and most of all, act like it. If they don't, the grey area that women like to exist in really isn't grey, it's the black of black and white and we just don't want to admit it. Harsh but true. The author poses the question, why waste your time?
Well, I think Adam Smith, failed to express this one fact: though the self-regulating economies may be a stroke of genius, but when it comes to relationships, the balances are tipped, and women are coming out of the short end of demand.
The ugly truth is, as long as bouncy blonds weighing 106 pounds exist, and even worse, they get media time, men will always be in short supply. Demand is tipped away from anything less than ideals of perfection, and the good heart of a woman that desires love, family, home, future and commitment is SOL.
Women desire relationship, companionship. Genesis says that woman was cursed in that "her desire will be for her husband...." I looked this up as I was pondering these things and found that the word "desire" is comparable to need. It is associated with overtaking and a deep demand. When Eve bit the apple, we got screwed.
See, before the balance of supply and demand was even. Companionship was on the mind of both, but NEED was not in the picture. The man was free with his time and love, and the woman was confident in her own image enough to be able to enjoy without devouring. Now, we find ourselves in a different world. A world where the man's curse put him to work, and the woman's put her to chasing after the man.
With the death of Christ, and the fulfillment of laws, that means that this curse can be lifted. Technically it should be equilibrium should be found. The problem is, not everyone's curse has been lifted, so women still find themselves in the same predicament as always. How do we overcome the curse without giving up on hope at the same time? Where is our equilibrium?
With the image of the many amazing women that I know, single, having been burned in the past, still hoping, and yet struggling with the tipped balances of an unequal curse, the only conclusion I come to is, though their curses are lifted, they have not met the match of another who has experienced the same release.
So as they wait, I watch them closely as they continue to return to the pre-apple Eve. The confident one that only knew herself as she was known by her Creator. And the more that image registers in them, I know that one day, their counterparts will recognize it and appreciate it forever.
Until then, damned be to all the bouncing blonds that keep screwing with the aggregate demand for the rest of us.
2 comments:
Men need as well.
Men need to be needed; women need to be wanted. That's a good decade or so of observation boiled down into one sentence, so chew on it a bit before writing it off.
As for the 106 pound bouncing blonde - some guys actually find that a turnoff. Just saying. Because sometimes, content DOES win out over flashy packaging.
Intelligence, character, personality, wit, humor, creativity - these are not to be underestimated.
Fair enough. All perspectives are welcome. Just writing from a woman's view. It's always going to look different from a different window, the idea was to empower the ideals of confidence within ones own skin. The argument that our media tends to send unrealistic goals can't be argued with, and of course not all men fall into the same category, but it must be remembered that men have more grace than women when it comes to selection. The microscope is on women for looks much more strongly than it is for men. The double standard exists. Women aren't perfect, and neither are men. Like I said, just the view from a different window.
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